7 posts tagged “dating”

I have a date in about an hour and a half.  I do not want to go.  Why did I agree to this?  We are meeting for a drink.  All day I've been trying to figure out what I'm going to say when we say goodbye (because I'm assuming this date will be painful to get through):

1.  I had a good time.  I'll call you.
2.  Sure, we should go out again.  I'd like that.
3.  Well, we really have nothing in common...
4.  I had a nice time, but I'm not feeling that indescribable something that I need to feel.
5.  I think we're better off as friends. 

or

just

say

Nothing.

Why am I doing this?  

Date #2 and I are supposed to have dinner on Thursday night.  I told him that I would make the reservations, etc.  He asks me, in an email, whether it will be a fancy or casual restaurant and:

whether he'll be paying or will I pay.

Sigh.

Was a smashing success!  Yay!
He has:
great sense of humor
is extremely intelligent.  smarter than me even.
is tall and thin
seems stable (has a professional career, doesn't live at home, actually owns a car)

he eerily reminds me of an exboyfriend (you know, the guy who was probably the best thing that ever happened to me but I was too dumb and immature to know it and appreciate it).

that kind of makes me a little...hesitant about being attracted to him.  I mean, if he didn't resemble the x so much I think I might be physically attracted to him.  I don't know.  But I'm not going to write him off just because of that.

The play we saw was great - very funny.  And we hit it off right away - no awkward pauses in the conversation and it's amazing how much we have in common.  Not just with the sense of humor and type of literature we like to read, but we both ran marathons, have similar family backgrounds...the goodbye was kind of awkward.  Since it's 10:30 on a sunday night, there was no "wanna grab a drink" or anything.  We sat in his car for a bit and talked about marathons and family.  I am very impressed by his inner geek.  Then he drove me home.   He said something about talking soon, I think I muttered (in my ever so charming way) "yeah, i'm sure i'll never hear from you ever again" - fortunately he got the joke and actually laughed. 

Although I suppose it's a possibility that I'll never hear from him again...although I doubt it.

But you know what?  If I never hear from him again, I think I'll be okay...I had a good time, he seems like a nice, decent guy.  A good reminder to me that they actually exist.

On another note, I came home to find my dog got into the trash and was eating  part of a hamburger patty that I had thrown out early this afternoon.  It had been in the freezer and I figured it was time to toss it.  I was planning on taking it out before I went on the date but I forgot.  Anyway, it had pretty much thawed by the time he got to it.  Now I'm worried he's going to get all sick from it...He seems okay...

Where have I been, you ask?

I dropped my laptop.  Again.

Yes.  That laptop that had the brand new harddrive that I had JUST had installed (because I had dropped my laptop and had damaged the harddrive - which was also a brand new harddrive that had been replaced by Apple).

That's 3 harddrives in under a month.

After it happened, I turned out the lights in my apartment and crawled under the covers and decided that I was going to pretend it didn't happen.  Only to wake up and have to deal with the fact that, yes, I had just dropped my laptop again and damaged my harddrive.  Again.

I decided that I clearly wasn't responsible enough to own a laptop anymore.

I am composing this latest entry on my early Christmas present.  My father decided that I was being a bit hard on myself and took me to the Apple store to pick out a new laptop.  At first I refused, and then decided I was being an idiot for turning down his offer.  But I refused to get a brand new one - so I picked out a "refreshed" MacBook that was the store demo, it's only 6 months old.  It's AMAZING.  Apple has really outdone itself.  My dad then insisted to on having my old laptop examined and then have the harddrive replaced.  I didn't understand why he wanted to waste another $200 on it, and then I realized HE wanted my old laptop.  Ha!  I think I have begun the Macintosh conversion on my dad!  So the old ibook is off to Apple for a new brain and my spanking new MacBook is on my lap.

Other than that drama, things have been busy.  Busy at work, busy with the dog.  He had his surgery (neutering) on Friday and that was another drama.  He went in early Friday morning and the vet released him later that afternoon.  I thought they would keep him over night, but no.  At first he seemed ok, but things went steadily downhill.  He was in very bad shape and was showing symptoms that I just couldn't figure out.  Plus he wouldn't eat or drink anything.  He couldn't sit or lay down, just stood there, shaking, with a glassy look.  Wasn't responding.  I was in such a panic.  Called the vet ER, they were a bit surprised he wasn't given any pain medicine.  He just moaned and moaned and I couldn't even pick him up without hurting him.  Then he just collapsed, fell right over.  I flipped out, called the breeder - thank God she was there - turned out he was very hypoglycemic.  I gave him some corn syrup and he bounced back like a champ.  Then gave him some hot dog.  Lots of hot dog.

Yesterday was still a bit touch-and-go, but this morning he's back to his bubbly, tail wagging self.  I'll have to post some pics of him in his Elizabethan collar - it's very funny.  He looks like a little buttercup.  I think I'll decorate it :)

My eharmony matches, by the way, are getting better and better.  I haven't met any of them yet, but there are quite I few who I am definitely interested in.  Hopefully I'll be able to start meeting up with some of these matches after Thanksgiving.

Today, just hanging out with the family and Dash.  Nothing exciting. 

Good day.  Productive day.  As much as I HATE daylight savings time and coming home from work in pitch black, it was really nice to have bright sunshine when I took Dash for his morning walk.  Felt a little more energetic than usual and not as much caffeine was required.  And then I actually was able to focus on my work and get some done.  Imagine that.

Weekend was okay, too.  Went home again, I am now a dark brunette.  Mom and I went to the mall on sunday - it was nice since we haven't really spent much time together lately and don't talk like we used to.  Which is all on me, but that's another story for another time.  She did ask whether I had been dating anyone, and it felt so strange to lie and say, "no."  I mean, I'm not about to tell my mother what I've been involved in/with for the last 2 years.  It's odd to have had this significant relationship (well, significant to me anyway) and my family never knew about any of it...oh well.  Doesn't matter now.

But the shopping was fun.  I've gained a bit of weight and needed to get a pair of pants that actually fit.  I can't believe it but I've gone up 4 sizes.  I don't know how it happened...I mean, I've actually been exercising more.  Okay my diet has been ultra crappy lately.  That's how it happened.  I think I have finally hit the wall.  My metabolism is slowing down.  Sigh.  Gone are the days of eating like a garbage disposal and staying skinny minny.  Well, at least I'm not pregnant, right?

Anyway.  I'm going through my eharmony matches :)  So far I haven't gotten many, but the ones I have gotten seem interesting.  And none of them are lawyers!  Yayyy!  We'll see where it goes...

So, my date from friday appears to be a psycho.  Well, maybe that's a little harsh.  More like the stereotypical desparate woman.  After our date, he began inundating me with emails.   And the emails kind of creeped me out - without getting into it, he was just WAY too into me for only having had one date.  I replied to them, but I wasn't encouraging responses - I mean it was during the workday and I had my argument to prepare (which I told him).  In one of my replies I commented that I felt a cold coming on.  He sent me a "get well" e-card.

Now, I'm not about playing games but I do believe in taking things slowly and not giving out TMI in the beginning.  He was starting to get on my nerves.  It also turns out that while he is separated, the divorce proceedings have not begun and it didn't sound like they were beginning anytime soon.  So screw that.  Been there done that.  I was going to wait until we spoke to tell him that I wasn't interested in another date, but after all of the emails i decided to just nip it in the bud.  I mean, to end it before anything really began.  Which I did.  So I told him that didn't have anything to offer me, that I was looking for xyz and that exploring a relationship with him would not help me get those those things.  So far no response.  I'm glad he doesn't have my phone number and I'm unlisted.

Moving on - Friday night I'm going to a Pet Halloween Party!  I'm excited - hopefully I'll meet some new people.  Maybe Jake Gyllenhall boy will be there  with his pug!  Eli is going as a dragon.  I am going as a Princess.  He looks adorable in his costume.  So adorable it takes away any guilt I have for making him walk around in it.  Besides - it's all for a greater cause - helping me meet some new people - hopefully some single men!

yawn I'm tired.  Had an argument in Superior Court today - I think it went really well, but I don't want to jinx myself.  It's hard when you aren't the appellant and you are arguing that the Court should affirm the lower court only because I hate to be the one who "loses" the win.  And we rarely win at the trial level anyway, so it hurts even more to have the Superior Court take that win away.

I'm so proud of myself.  I just went on a quasi-blind date.  I responded to this ad on craigslist - it was a very funny post in the stritctly platonic section.  Mostly about being a misanthrope.  So I responded, and we started emailing back and forth, then progressed to IM's.  So we met for coffee after work today.  Then we decided to grab dinner.  Then went to the Chocolate Cafe for drinking chocolates. Then we took my dog for a walk. 

Since we had been exchanging emails and IMs for so long, I had that false sense of security like I felt like I knew him.  So I had to keep reminding myself that he could be, for all I knew, the next Ted Bundy who lurks on craigslist for unsuspecting prey.  I considered bringing a knife along in my purse.

God I've been in my job for WAY too long.

I'm not really attracted to him.  He's attractive, we have an awful lot in common, and he actually gets my sense of humor.  Which is nice.  He's Mr. Introspective artsy-type.  Very intelligent.  He's 41, separated (but not divorced argh) with 2 kids.  I have already made a contract with myself that nothing serious will happen unless he is divorced.  Not going down that road.  He has some quirks which I know in the long run would drive me batty.  But I had a nice time.  I didn't even think about Mr. Wonderful.  I just let myself enjoy myself.

I think we will end up friends more than anything else.  Okay, I don't think it, I know it.  This guy isn't the one for me.  And I think he has more of a big brother feeling in a way towards me - although we did kiss goodnight and he was certainly into that.  That was really the only time I thought of Mr. Wonderful - when I kissed him goodnight it just reminded me that I was kissing someone new.  Someone different.

Different can be good.